Comments on: Legal rape in Afghanistan?

By: faemom

faemom — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 14:35:19 +0000

You hit the nail right on the head. Have you ever seen the time-line of how women were treated amoungst the Jewish/Christians around 1 AD. During Jesus’s time, they were treated much better than ten years before, and twenty years or so later everything went back to “normal.” Reading the Christian Gospels, one gets a strong sense that Jesus saw women as equals. But soon as you start getting into the letters, you start realizing His disciples don’t agree with him. I believe it’s the same with Muhammad. You can only push a culture so far off it’s path. I wonder what we can do to help them to be more enlighten, as in see everyone with rights.

By: femspotter

femspotter — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 13:18:44 +0000

Very interesting… I know next to nothing about the religion itself. Why is it that the Quran says one thing, yet they reflect a hatred for women in their daily lives? I guess Christians don’t always follow the lessons of the Bible the way we should either. The Catholic Church can be very rigid and misogynist. I remember graduating from Catholic high school as a Baptist and the Arch-Bishop scanning the graduating class and then telling us that there are many “professional” openings for priests and nuns in the church, should we choose that “righteous” path. Yeah, right! Nuns are below priests and that’s the glass ceiling for women…hasn’t been broken yet. No thank you!

By: faemom

faemom — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 22:27:32 +0000

Unfortunately I don’t know as much about Islam as I would like to. Most of the misogyny comes from the culture pre-Islam. In the Quaran, it says heaven lays at the foot of the mothers. Many Muslims feel the West dishonors women by using them to advertise products. Actually Muhammad’s wives only wore a veil because HE was so holy, not because he was a man. I have heard from other Muslim women that their religion is very pro-mother. I’ve read blogs of women who visited some of the Middle Eastern countries to see women breastfeed everywhere without one worried look from any one. I do plan to learn more about Islam because religion is so interesting to me.

By: femspotter

femspotter — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 21:25:38 +0000

I agree. I would like to know more about their views on motherhood. Is it like here (U.S) and in Europe in the 1600′s when the en vogue thing was to think that women were just incubators for babies (created entirely by men)? Do Islamic people value women for their mothering abilities?

The Muslim men and women I know who live here (mostly from Turkey) are not misogynist. I have one female friend who has a baby girl and is beginning to attend medical school – her husband (a contractor) is very supportive.

By: faemom

faemom — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 21:18:21 +0000

I’m just wondering where the translation mistake is. It’s all or nothing with these people sometimes, and it’s horrible to see these autrocities performed in the name of religion, especially a relegion that speaks well of women and motherhood. I mean can’t these men think of their mothers if nothing else. Ugh. It’s so frustrating because we are really powerless to stop it.

By: femspotter

femspotter — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 13:00:33 +0000

I remember reading that book, terrified the whole way through. I was shocked at the notion that a once loving husband could strip his wife of her rights and dignity so quickly.

By: Mom

Mom — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 11:32:42 +0000

You make a really good analogy using sleep. Sleep is such a treasure and I can think of no more terrifying an event than to be awakened from sleep into terror. This is a known wound for people who suffer from night time earthquakes and other natural disasters. Rape is anything but natural! The movie “Not Without My Daughter” with Sally Field comes to mind as a very visual representation of what you are discussing here. Thank you for putting your words to this trauma.